01/30/2012

From me to you...

It is with great disappointment in myself and sincere regret that I would like to issue to my friends, my most ardent supporters, and my followers, this statement:  

I would like to offer from the bottom of my heart the fullest and most heartfelt apology for my recent use of an anti-gay slur.  When I used this word, I was not mindful of the demeaning connotation that this has in the gay community.  My speech was irresponsible, thoughtless and said with the intention of conveying anger rather than as a statement on my feelings towards the gay community as a whole.  

My first action, after the incident was to contact my closest friend and assistant of 8 years and to confess what I had done, to express my sadness and regret, and to ask him for his forgiveness.  I was devastated at the thought of having hurt or embarrassed him as well as any member of the gay community and relish this opportunity to publicly apologize.  My friends have embraced me, supported me, withheld judgment of me and have meant a lot to me over the years.  I would never abuse their kindness and friendship and would never want to hurt them or demean them in any way.  

I applaud and admire this community for their triumph over a sometimes harsh, mean spirited society that discriminates and even violently attacks those who are different.  These are obstacles that I relate to and that I have been inspired by them to overcome.  I celebrate this community and am saddened by any indication otherwise, that my actions may have caused.  

I look forward to continuing to build my strong relationship with you, my followers and supporters, and those of you who do not yet know me and my heart.  I look forward to work to regain your trust, respect and your love which has so empowered me over the years.  I also thank you for allowing me to address you personally and to let you know how deeply sorry I am.

 

With Love,

Marlo

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Don't stress we all make mistakes and say things in the heat of the moment....But I must say you put Sheree in her place...Kudos Im still and will always be #TEAMMARLO

It's all good sweetheart, stuff happens!! You stepped up to the plate with heartfelt apologies and that says a lot about you.... No ones perfect, however when we do misspeak it shows our character when we retract and or apologize for our recklessness. That is all one can do!! I respect your humbleness, and baby I'm riding out with ur Team!!!

TEAMMARLO!!! WE KNO U DIDT MEAN WHT U SAIDED... BUT THESE DAYS BOY DESTROY U WITH. JUST BE CAREFUL, WE WHO R ON UR SIDE LOVE U & UNSTAND!!!!

I LOVE HOW YOU READ MR. SHEREE! #teammarlo

Hello Marlo, hope all is well with you. I'm team Marlo...and I'm very happy for your success. I applaud your courage for coming forward and apologizing for any wrong things you may have said. I also remember you from St.Petersburg and can relate to your up bringing..(so I feel you)..lol..and I did hear the Burg come out of you in AFrica..lmbo... I enjoyed the show it was entertaining. I just have one more thing to say...stay true to you! You went to far with this proper etiquette thing.. It seemed like you was trying to hard.....but luv ya girl...keep pressing forward...

Let the first person without any mistake cast a stone to your fate.........exactly I dont hear anything. Marlow you are you and make no apologies for being imperfectly beautiful. Keep your head up and keep on learning and shining oh and as always keep being fabulously you.

Regards,
Cookie(The Femme fe Tell Show)

@team marlo: We all knew you just got caught in the heat of the moment but that what makes us human and we grow from there. Sending Love and keep ur chin up!

Oh...this probably won't be posted bc you won't approve. But you are bat sh*t crazy. You do nothing but try and stir up drama. I'd be scared of your tall ass and you assaulting me. I am so glad that you're not a regular on rhoa...you suck.

I forgive you for using the gay slur. Its a learning experience and we all learn from it.

That being said, Kim Zolciak should be removed from the housewives and you should be hired by Bravo. We would love to see more of you and your fabulousness.

We normally say what we mean in the heat of an argument. That is why it is best to maintain some self control.

Ms. Marlo,
Somethings are learned as you continue to live while other experiences are shared with you by others. Here you got the best of both worlds! It also revealed to you how powerful your words can be when used in certain settings. The power of words is like the power of pussy (they both assist to create LIFE) Consider your apology the first step to "corrective action" and now you must leave it to those within the LGBTQ community to wo/man UP and accept your sincere apology.~ BCAtalk #lessonslearned

Are you guys, blind or slow. first off she did not put Sheree in her place, what you did Marlo was prove what has always been said about women (catty). I was so disappointed in you and Sheree it was not funny, and yes while understanding the slip of the tongue, you still have to be mindful of certain things. I think honestly that you have a strong presence and it was already felt among the ladies so you do not need to belittle yourself. last, but not least, Sheree never said you. You say you have class, then show us how classy your are and not trashy. Much respect, but you were real messy last night, get it together.

I always hate to hear that sort of nonsense, but anyone who is honest with themselves know that we all fall short from time to time.

I am just shocked at how some of the blogs *you know who you are* are using this to continue to bash you and spread their garbage. They claim to be so insulted by your indiscretion, but these are the SAME blogs I have read call you a transvestite TO INSULT & SHAME YOU as well as plenty of their own slurs. How does one care so much about the LGBT community when you use that as an insult for people you don't like? It's so ingenuous it makes me sick! Calling someone a transvestite as an insult is just as shameful and as much as a slur as anything. And on some blogs it is an everyday practice. Yet TODAY they decide they are insulted by a word? Please.

I apologize for revealing some of the nasty things that some (not ALL) have written. I don't do that to shame you or bring you down. But I felt it was necessary to my point.

I am very glad to hear you have remorse and have taken steps to repair any damage your unkind words may have caused. That is, afterall, what grown women DO.

You apologized, move on. #nuffsaid

I agree with the points that VP made!

Marlo, it takes a real woman to apologize and admit when she was wrong. I respect that a great deal! xo

HEY i must say you are so freaking FAB!!! and Pretty, I must admit i love all members of the cast and Sheree is my favorite!! But u gave me life last night.!!! LOL like i sad i love sherre too, i just wish she realized her potential and capitalized from it like the other houswives(workout dvd/clothes). But anyways!! I love that ur on the show, ur fab, pretty and funny as hell. I like how u turned ur life around and are actually helping other foster children(im in school so that I may work w/ foster children)...anyways.. I hope ur on next season... God Bless,Ree

To those who find it necessary to offend Marlo with your words are just as gulity of the same mistake she is trying to apologize for. We need to reconize when human spirit is in a place of humbleness. Why come on her personal blog to attack? Take the time to get to know her(where she has been and where she is trying to go) Love her as she is on a journey the same as all of us. No judgements along the way!

I hope you will grace us with your elegance and style at this years ESSENCE Music Festival because we'd love to see you there. I love that you don't get lost in the glare of another woman's spotlight. Even though most of the cast is over 40, some have yet to leave high school behind with their childish behavior.

So tacky! I guess it really is true what they say, "You can take the girl out of the ghetto but, you can't take the ghetto out of the girl". You showed who you REALLY are. All of your true colors were shown. That's why you ugly? Pathetic! Not to mention childish. You can buy the most expensive clothes, shoes, cars, makeup and fancy trappings in the world, doesn't matter if the inside is rotten.

Grow up, no one has to invite you to their functions. If you really wanted to attend the party, why didn't you invite yourself? I don't recall you clearing it with Phaedra to attend a trip she planned.

I know first hand how easy it is to be drawn down to someone else's level but Marlo it appears you attacked first. Had I not read this blog I would have a very negative impression of you based on your behavior on the show on Sunday. But I really respect your ability to admit when you're wrong. We as viewers only get to see the "edited for tv drama side" so after reading your other blog posts, I clearly see a totally different side to you and KUDOS to you honey! I respect your hustle and will DEFINITELY visit your blog regularly.

Faggot, Bit%ch, Ni66a... What's the difference... I wonder how many of the angry Marlo haters even support the Gay community... First off I'm a Lesbian and have been for a LONG time. Faggot where I'm from in Gay terms is a messy ass PERSON who runs there mouth and cant be trusted.
I wasn't offended at all. What upsets me is all the people who have something to say I wonder when the last time they fought for for gay equality period. I would like to note that if you are going to be a lover of gays ACTION speaks Louder than words. Do you know how many Gay kids killed themselves last year because they felt so hopeless? Being a Gay lover goes beyond loving your hairstylist or your nail tech, its getting yourself acclimated to our life and our struggle. You should understand this more than ANY of the housewives as they've made you an outcast.
You have more power than you know. Use it for GOOD.

I thought the etiquette lessons were fun and informative; I would love to travel with someone like you as opposed to women who talk behind your back (sheree), talk to kings and queens (phae phae) and are bitter about being outsmarted by a musical neophyte (kandi koated)

@ann bravo paid for the trip..do your research and know what is t.v and what is not. Marlo do not worry they only know what the show displays. In my prayers and that info released today. Ignore and dont respond...

I find it curious that many commenters here are saying that during an argument a slip of the tongue is excusable if that person is apologetic afterwards. I wonder if one of the white ladies from "Real Housewives of Beverly Hills" told her castmate to go hang out with her "N-word" if you would still be as forgiving...i'm guessing probably not.

Marlo I think its wonderful that you cleared the air and apologized for your wrong doings. Whatever happened back then is over with. Yeah it is sad that the lady committed suicide but to link you to it is just foul. People will always find a way to drag you in the mud. Clearly Sheree and Candy are a tad bit jealous, why wouldnt they be!!! You're a bad chick!!! However you got your riches be it a white rich man or a rich black man is your bizness. You came up look, at it as your blessing. Truth be told m oost of us looking for a come up too. People feel like you being fake but hell money do change people why eat tuna fish out the can if you got caviar money? Do you! Whatever makes you smile and be able rest at night is all that matters.
Wise words to live by tho "Never argue with a fool, People from a distance can't tell who is who.

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