05/22/2012

A Family Story, Part II

Me + 4 kidsFrom r to l: Mike, Ryan, Jasmine & Kiki


I was 11 when I left my mother’s home.  Before then, my older sister  would come check on my little brother and I, making sure we had food.  And when I left, moving between 4 different foster homes until landing at the last one at age 14, it was me who who looked after me, me who did for myself.  

So family, is for me an interesting word.  What is family if it does not offer the protection and nurturing it should?  And who decides what you owe anyone, especially when not anyone feels they owe you?  

At 16, I started working, first fast food - you know what it was, Mickey D's - then retail, even bartending.  I was blessed to meet a gentleman or two along the way, who truly helped me.  But family never took care of Marlo.  And Marlo did take care of family, even at 17 driving to different Foster Homes, visiting my nieces and nephews, always helping them, loving them, taking them out to amusement parks and to have fun.  I did for my mother; she could always count on me, I would always look after her.  Her house is paid for and furnished by me, and she could always count on me to give her money.   

But none of these things brings family together - if anything, it only tears them apart...

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When you open up and tell your real life experience, its a beautiful thing. We are here on earth for experience, and those experiences prep us for our purpose. Maybe yours was to write a book that inturn helps others going thru the same struggle, strength, courage & inspiration. ALWAYS try to find purpose in the experience or at least the possibilities of the lesson. Would love a book Marlo! :)

Proverbs 31:15-17
She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.

typo *struggles so it can give them strength, courage and inspiration!

Who am I to judge? In other words, no one knows your story until they walk in your shoes. Therefore, I admire Marlo for not allowing the negative comments from society to stop her from being herself, especially after reading this brief passage about her past.

OMG!!! Reality TV only showed us how pretty you are and your fabulous fashion. Reading your blogs shows the REAL you and gives us (the public) a brand new light on your life. You are truly a beautiful inspiration to so many women. Whenever I read your blogs it really inspires me to help others (and look good while doing it). Keep up the GREAT work! God Bless!

You truly have a testimony Marlo. Thank you for sharing with the world.

Yes, I'd agree. This is beautifully said and I can relate.

and i can say i agree with you as far as family is concern i am the youngest of 12 i am not as well off as a few if my siblings but i am there for my mom for all of her need doc appointments outtings you know everyday things other than myself and 2 other siblings visit her there are 8 of us still living and my family hates me and my mom because of our bond its sad when we as black families dont stick together but sitt and backstab each other

Beautiful pic of a wonderful family. Yes family should come first mine sure does. Continue to post such well written and sincere stories Marlo..TIff in Ohio

It's sad to hear this story, but it does happen in so many house holds. I am so blessed to be brought up in such a wonderful family and I try not to take none of it for granted.God has placed you in this life for a reason and one of them could be to help others know what you been through and how it did not make you bitter and that you still can love. It is great that you still kept family in mind, regardless how family are don't change your heart, mind or soul for the past hurt. Everybody has things they can change or fix in there life. Be blessed love

Marlo, I appreciate you even more. You are living an amazing journey. I pray for your continued blessings and success.

Thank you Devona, your prayers mean a lot to me!

Ebony, everything surely happens for a reason! I do feel that even just by sharing, I am able to impact people. I am using my Glam It Up Campaign and will continue to find other ways to help others.

Kenya, I am sorry to hear of your pain. I understand about your bond with your mother being questioned, the resentment. I am proud of you for continuing to do what is right.

I pray for u as I do myself..always a big fan cause i always knew the pain..working on my book you work on yours.love u for your courGe

o wow thats a nice photo

This was interesting insight Marlo. If this is part 2 I def need to go back and read part 1.

It was liberating for me to hear that one can come from struggle and still make it to the top,........... thats where I plan to be. On top, not like a celebrity but like a Divo as Marlo would say. Marlo If oyou read this know that your growth is what is bringing back my spark in life. aka I admire the hell outta you. xoxoxo...(sittin here listening to Betty Wright) :)

I agree with DSW. We appreciate you sharing who "Marlo" really is with us, since you are only depicted in one (unfair) light via TV and the gossip blogs. I only wish more people read your blog!

This once again proves my point about you! You are a kind, giving, caring person. Wow! You never know what a person been through in their lives. You show no signs of weakness, inspite of your past. You are truly a inspiration to me and I'm sure a lot of other ladies. Keep on doing what you're doing! I Love You!

Marlo you write so well. I think you should take it more seriously. It's a gift. Keep doing you Marlo. God bless.

Thank you Joy! I am so grateful for all of you reading this and being interested in my story.

Thank you Yakini! I hope more people find their way here as well. When they are ready to hear from me, they will come...

Keith, isn't Betty so uplifting? I can't take credit for bringing back your spark, but please don't lose it - you have much to give!

I UNDERSTAND YOU COMPLETELY...MY STORY STARTED LATER WHEN I WAS ABOUT 13-14. IT WAS WHEN MY PARENTS SPLIT. MY MOTHER WASN'T STABLE WE LIVED IN TWO OR THREE PLACES IN 2-3 YEARS TIME. IT WAS AWFUL. I WAS RAPED BY A FAMILY FRIEND...I BECAME PREGNANT DROPPED OUT OF SCHOOL. I FINALLY TOLD MY SISTERS , IN THE LAST YEAR OR SO. I HELD THAT SECRET FROM 16 TO 42...IT WAS EXHAUSTING, EVEN WHEN I TOLD THE STORY. BECAUSE AT MY AGE TEENAGERS WERE HAVING SEX. I REALLY DIDN'T THINK ANYONE WOULD BELIEVE ME. BUT, I FINALLY GOT THAT SECOND WIND OF COURAGE TO TELL SOMEBODY. I WATCHED MOVIES ABOUT GIRLS LIKE ME...PEOPLE WOULD SAY, THINGS LIKE WHY DIDN'T SHE TELL SOMEBODY, WHEN IT HAPPENED...FEAR PARALYZES YOU...

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