Divas and Divos...

I realize how we women sometimes tear each other apart in anger when in truth we're really just feeling hurt or betrayed. But that's not the woman I want to be.

I don't want to be a Diva who seeks to destroy another with words or "reads," while the crowds cheer on our bloodsport ratchetness. No one wins, except the ratings of course! Believe me, I'm not mad about that, (no ratings, no show!) I just think we have more to offer. Don't you agree?

Don't get me wrong, I'm not backing down, giving up or punking out. Trust and believe, I will NOT be Bullied at anytime by anyone!

I'll always stand up to those who try to knock me down, dig up my past or throw shade on my name and I encourage all my Divas and Divos in training to do the same. At the same time, I don't want to BE a bully either. It's not cute, or in fashion. It won't raise my star power and surely won't increase my bank account!

The truth is... I love it when women, especially black women, overcome obstacles to succeed despite all the challenges we face. Everyday I'm striving to be like the women I admire. Beautiful, accomplished, intelligent, yet flawed women who make mistakes, fall down, hit rock bottom - only to prove that like a phoenix, they can and will rise again from the ashes.

I can't fake hurt or anger because I'm human and I'm always going to be real. When I care for someone, I'm doing so without any ulterior motives. And, while being betrayed by family or friend can take you "there," retaliating with an equally inappropriate verbal or physical assault can never be justified. So I'm checking myself.

Whether I want to be or not, I am a role model to my glam it up girls, nieces, goddaughters and other young women who are watching and imitating my behavior. I need to do better. I can't promise you I'll turn the other cheek if I'm slapped, (don't suggest anyone try me, I'm not there yet) but be patient ya'll, God is still working on me!

So... I apologize for my part in this shameful drama that reinforces stereotypes about who we are as black women. And pray that one day we'll realize nobody wins when even one of us loses.

To all the RHOA/Bridesmaids I have offended: Phaedra, Kandi, Kim, Sheree, Diana, Pat and NeNe, I apologize. We may never be friends or see eye to eye on anything, (and I'm cool with that!) however, I don't need to tear you down to build myself up. I know who I am - The Diva, Marlo Patrice Hampton and I am the spotlight, but so are you. Let's all bask in it. God made sure there would be enough shine for all of us.




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love you ... you are so beautiful & awesome don't ever change

I remember in a episode of RHOA when you !!! brought NeNe over to YOUR!! gorgeous house & gave her one of your Chanel hand bags lolll remember .. It was a privileged for her that you did that for her & you see how she treats you know .. like you said in the last episode it was you Marlo were NeNe learned how to dress ,have class etc .. Thats right Marlo .. NeNe should be thanking you ... Love you so much .. & Kenya too love her lot's too... you 2 are so beautiful & hilarious & so sexy & have so much class ... <3 xx <3

Very proud of you.Can't no one steal your shine it's tooo bright. Your wasn't wrong to feel how u felt.. I love u and pray u get more air time.

Omg! My Darling sweet beautiful MARLO!

What a Beautiful Message! Im gonna CRY truly, as this message of Upliftment, empowerment, and Encouragement is just Heartfelt, lovely and touching! I will always from now on consider you my HERO or Heroine rather for you have given ME the courage to forgive also THOSE that have wronged me but at the same time in TRUTH respect myself enough Not to give Anyone Permission to HURT me again.

My dear When I first saw YOU "Come out of Your Shell" on the RHOA show haha defending yourself to Kandy and how you kept mentioning the words "big Poppa" lols whilst Kim was present at Cynthia's event! OMG I just busted out Laughing, coz you were so FUNNY! Those were your Golden moments to me. Coz it was hilarious! Then you showed Nene your Beautiful HOME and I thought "Wow this woman is sooo grand, and Pristine and so STYLISH, I wanna be her" Then you showed up at the Reunion and you were so Beautiful with that "Naomi Campbell hair" and I fell in love with YOU at that moment. You had such MAGIC with Nene. It was a JOY to watch both of YOU.

And then I read this BLOG and I fell in love with you once again! Showing us what true character and INTEGRITY IS amidst an intermittent and troubled SITUATION. You have now shown us what a TRUE LADY you really are, and what a REAL WOMAN should be by turning a Hateful situation into Peace and Love. For that I shall always LOVE you for the inner light and GLOW that shines within YOU by telling US that EVIL will not Win and LOVE in the end Conquers ALL! Love Maya Angel Kisses! Youre just Wonderful!

I was just thinking that all this name calling and bashing isn't helping at all. Y'all were still friends and friends even when they fall out shouldn't start bashing or 'telling it all' about the other. So I do commend you so much for taking the stance of not fueling/apologizing in this blog. It's takes a real women to realize no matter how wrong u may be been u still should raise beyond it and still wish the best for everyone


I love you girl! This was the truth. NeNe needed to be called out, but for you to do this shows who the MATURE person is.

Peace, Love and Hairgrease

My prayers are with you Marlo......amazing step.

Good for u

This was very adult of you, honestly i did not care for you too much after seeing how you acted on the show, it was almost inhumane but this post shows me that your human and you take responsibility of your part. Friends will fight and some are just there for seasons but you should never hit below the belt when mad. I now have some respect for you so please keep it classy and let God do his work.

This is beautiful. A heartfelt message that I hope is received in the spirit it was given.

Now that's being a real woman, Marlo has got every point across. This sounds like myself. This is why I follow you, you uplift women and sometimes women are so insecure with themselves that they don't even know how to take someone as yourself. But saying the things you posted about these ladies I don't if any of them will take it to heart, but you are the bigger person they just can't take you I'm just saying!! Love your blog :-)

It would be nice if Nene would read your blog. Perhaps you can send it to her in a beautiful card. She and every housewife on Bravo needs to read it. What you said is truth. You are indeed the Spotlight!

Love, love this Marlo !!!!Keep shining girlfriend... NeNe has became to Hollywood and very fake in my eyes, she is nothing

Very well said, Marlo. I have been so over the tweets from Nene, which I see as very immature. I agree that it's time to take the high road ladies.

Good for you, there's nothing wrong in admitting wrong behavior. Just remain the fabulous person God has destined for you to be.

I must admit, I have not been a fan of yours on RHOA. However, I can say I have had a change of heart. After finding your blog today, I see a kinder, gentler Marlo that may be a little misunderstood. Your pics of your family really touched me and I see that you have alot of insight. I apologize for judging you, from what has been portrayed on tv. Love the blog!!!

Nice words but doesn't seem genuine especially since you list it AFTER putting all NeNe's business out. If this was truly you and how you felt you would have posted this before all the other carp you have posted. You like to say you don't like fake people but seems you are being fake with this post. I still feel you are shady, an opportunist and have no class.

Marlo, I am so proud of you for this apology. This is who I've been admiring all this time. I view you as a friend's friend, never to betray one, at any cost, so I was very disappointed in your behavior towards NeNe. But thank God for reflections. I wish you the best and please make things right with NeNe....Please. The click was real.

I suppose this was the adult thing to do. Whatever you need to do to clear your conscious and sleep better at night, Marlo. However I do not feel you had anything to apologize for. Nene Leakes has transformed into a monster! She is not the individual RHOA fans came to know and love. While she has always been loud, obnoxious & comical, her ego has taken her in a whole new direction. What was once "the class clown" of the RHOA is now a negative, angry, instigating, hateful, pessimistic, jealous, egotistical, insecure BITCH! Her attitude is beyond nasty and to be her friend, you must be willing to kiss her ass nowadays.

Sorry, but I don't think she was worthy of an apology. You were right - her lace front is hideous and her style is tacky. The truth hurts! Nonetheless, you and Kenya have done nothing but try to be adults about the situation, squash any tension that may have been lingering and try to reconcile with her. How long would she have made you two jump thru hoops? She's a bully and thinks way too much of herself. Girl, move on with your life! This was never a friend and you don't need these types of people around you. They are TOXIC and their negative karma will eventually come back to give them what they really deserve. It's just a matter of time for her.


Sista!, thank you for your honesty and reflection! The Best any of us can do when in a situation such as this is to forgive, Ask for forgiveness of those we may have offended & an opportunity to start a new day, with new mercies! I, like you , am just seeking to understand and to be understood in this life! None of us are perfect & we all have fallen short along the way. I have a new respect for you, I'm proud of you for your humbleness ( it makes you even that much more Fabulous, Muah!!- Lol). & I am looking forward to seeing what's next in the world of Marlo Hampton! :).

Love ya, stay EVER so FAB & God Bless!!!

Marlo no need to apologize to any of them Nene dissed you. You tried to talk to her and nene actions were rude and bitchy. She was pulling a power move. She tried to humilated you on tv by trying to portray you as non important. America knows Nene is wrong! So what she is on dancing with the stars. I wont be watching however I will watch her on Iyanla fix my life. I havent yet to hear Nene apologize for any of her wrong doing.

No one takes the HIGH ROAD better than the adult of the zodiac: Aquarius! :-)

The Ancestors are pleased. <3

It felt sincere. But only the sincere could "feel" it. Some of them may not receive it warmly, but that's not your burden, it's theirs'.

Hetepu <3

Blessings to you Marlo..Nene was definitely exposed this season! From the beginning you've been nothing more than a friend to her..Inviting her into your home offering her a Chanel bag due to her lack of I guess she doesn't recall that! Overall she needed to be called out on her actions she's not the only one deserving of the spotlight! This is what happens when a woman has pulled all she can out of you to improve herself and then becomes threatened of your presence! Keep striving Marlo you still remain an inspiration to many of us following you! -key

Pray,Stay Focused & Move Forward............
there's a larger platform developing for you.
God Bless You..........

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